I recently watched a really powerful video, a ted talk done by Brene Brown. It is called "The Power of Vulnerability."
(Here's the link of the ted talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o)
I come from this culture, this upbringing, this society where being vulnerable is "shame." Showing your true self to others, is something to be laughed upon, mocked upon. I've been through it, almost quite every day of my life. From parents, to close friends, to near relatives, to everyone I've known. They always say, "That's not you." Even right now, writing this, that thinking about 'what-would-others-say-when-they-read-this' pops up.
Brown explains that being vulnerable is being innovative, creative, passionate and not being ashamed, feeling guilty and all of the negativity thoughts that toil you down. When you show your vulnerability, you connect. You show who you really are. If you're able to show it, and not get the phrases like, "oh honey, that's not you." or "you're not like that," then you are surrounded by people whose worth it. Sadly enough, I haven't found them, but I am willing to show my vulnerability, show that I can be afraid, I can feel all those negative emotions, I can love someone or something so deeply despite not getting anything out of it, and still not get ashamed.
It's a tough journey I know, but I am not going to waste any more of my precious time to not understanding who I am, be grateful to the fact that I feel vulnerable therefore means I am alive.
(Here's the link of the ted talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o)
I come from this culture, this upbringing, this society where being vulnerable is "shame." Showing your true self to others, is something to be laughed upon, mocked upon. I've been through it, almost quite every day of my life. From parents, to close friends, to near relatives, to everyone I've known. They always say, "That's not you." Even right now, writing this, that thinking about 'what-would-others-say-when-they-read-this' pops up.
Brown explains that being vulnerable is being innovative, creative, passionate and not being ashamed, feeling guilty and all of the negativity thoughts that toil you down. When you show your vulnerability, you connect. You show who you really are. If you're able to show it, and not get the phrases like, "oh honey, that's not you." or "you're not like that," then you are surrounded by people whose worth it. Sadly enough, I haven't found them, but I am willing to show my vulnerability, show that I can be afraid, I can feel all those negative emotions, I can love someone or something so deeply despite not getting anything out of it, and still not get ashamed.
It's a tough journey I know, but I am not going to waste any more of my precious time to not understanding who I am, be grateful to the fact that I feel vulnerable therefore means I am alive.
"Just be able to stop and, instead of catastrophizing what might happen, to say, "I'm just so grateful, because to feel this vulnerable means I'm alive."
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